The Beauty of a Boring Life

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"From where i see, i find your life to be boring. There is nothing exciting about it!" This is what my Angel told me, when we were speaking last. As expected, we didn't agree on this, as for me this is a good life, where one is free from any kind of drama, a very defined life, except for a few happenings due to extended family or parents' social circle. I asked her, "One always seeks a life free from drama, and i am having it already, then why is it a boring life?" And she too agreed "Yes, people want a life free from drama, but still i feel your life is not exciting at all, it is too predictable!" 

These are the kind of conversations we have these days, when neither of us has anything happening around us. Though this has come after a difficult period (something kept happening in last couple of years with either of us), and i feel it pretty good. For someone like me, it is a perfect life. No noise, no drama and a lot of peace! It's not that she has a happening life, she is also going through that mundane work and family life, raising two kids while working a full time travelling job. For me, i work, eat, go for walks, run errands and then sleep again, attending a couple of phone calls in between :P for five days a week, and then deal with a small social/extended family group over weekends. 

Post this, i have been pondering over, is this is what is called mid-life crisis? When life starts functioning on an auto-pilot mode, what do people do? As per me, i feel this is the best time to experience pause. This is what i suggested to her as well, when she asked about what i expect her to do more in life. I told her, i wish if she can spare 5 minutes for herself, and spend those 5 minutes only with herself everyday consistently. Those 5 minutes, where one is away from any kind of distraction, i feel helps in resetting the brain over the time. Won't say that this is like Vipassana, but for ones who can not choose to go for it, this could be the first step! In the current world which has only taught us to optimise everything, i feel this is something that one can always opt for.  

“Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax.” 

~Mark Black

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